Pribadi yang Intelek

Apa itu intelek? Menurut wikipedia, cendekiawan atau intelektual adalah orang yang menggunakan kecerdasannya untuk bekerja, belajar, membayangkan, menggagas, atau menyoal dan menjawab persoalan tentang berbagai gagasan.

Banyak orang yang diam-diam menganggap dirinya intelek. Tetapi apakah benar demikian adanya? Berikut ini adalah ciri-ciri umum dari orang yang memiliki intelektualitas tinggi.

1. Tidak terburu-buru. Berpikir secara mendalam sebelum mengatakan atau berbuat sesuatu. Senantiasa berusaha mengolah pemikiran dan memahami jalannya percakapan dengan orang-orang yang berinteraksi dengannya.

2. Memiliki pendapat dan pemikiran yang cair. Artinya, mampu bersikap fleksibel ketika diharuskan untuk mengubah pendapatnya. Memiliki kemampuan membentuk keyakinan dan opini sendiri, menjaga diri dari kekakuan dan opini tertutup.

3. Cocok dengan banyak orang. Memiliki kemampuan menyesuaikan diri dengan lingkungan, dan memiliki kemampuan untuk mensinkronisasikan segala kemampuan diri sesuai dengan kebutuhan dalam lingkungan.

4. Seorang intelektual tidak memberikan kontribusi yang tidak perlu. Jika tidak ada hal yang perlu untuk dikatakan, lebih baik diam.

5. Menyadari kesalahan orang lain dan memahami bahwa dirinya pun tidak luput dari kesalahan. Tidak pernah merasa sungkan mengakui kesalahan apabila telah dilakukan.

6. Bertindak atas intuisi, dan mempercayainya. Intuisi yang didasarkan pada pengetahuan dan pengalaman masa lalu, sehingga mampu membuat kesimpulan dan keputusan melalui pemikiran serta kepekaan perasaan.

7. Berpenampilan unik. Tidak terlalu mempedulikan penilaian atau kritikan orang lain terhadap dirinya. Lebih mempercayai apa yang diyakini dan rasa nyaman menjadi diri sendiri.

8. Memiliki kecenderungan untuk mengambil tindakan/bertindak. Konsisten dengan setiap perkataan. Kata-katanya dapat dipegang dan tindakannya tak mudah dilumpuhkan oleh kata-kata.

9. Tidak mudah terpancing emosi. Mempertahankan kejernihan pikiran dan sikap yang tenang. Tidak akan membiarkan prasangka dan emosi negatif menguasai diri.

Nah, apakah kita memiliki ciri-ciri tersebut? Jika iya, selamat! Kamu adalah seorang yang berkepribadian intelek.

~ Jejak Bintang ~

tentang komunikasi

Komunikasi itu bukan hanya tentang apa yang kamu katakan, tetapi juga tentang memilih apa yang seharusnya tidak kamu katakan atau ucapkan.

Komunikasi tidak selalu tentang keterbukaan, tetapi bijak memilah mana yang harus dirahasiakan untuk diri sendiri.

~ Jejak Bintang ~

Loyalitas Seorang #LEO

"A Leo can be your BEST FRIEND or WORST ENEMY. There's no in-between. You're either WITH them or AGINST them".

Quote yang aku temukan ini, memang ada benarnya juga, sih. Sebagai seorang Leo, aku ngga suka plin-plan. Bagi aku, ngga boleh ada seorang pun bermain double-role-play denganku. Well, I hate hypocrites. So, kamu harus memilih salah satu diantara kedua pilihan tadi.

Namun ternyata seiring bergulirnya waktu, dinamika kehidupan yang kujalani, dan lajunya usia, semua berubah. Dalam panggung kehidupan, adakalanya kita duduk diantara lawan dan saling bersikap layaknya kawan,pun adakalanya kita duduk diantara kawan dan saling bersikap layaknya lawan.

Kini aku sudah tidak dapat mengistimewakan seorangpun sebagai sahabat sejati. Sebab sahabat sejati ternyata hanyalah letupan-letupan emosi semata yang bagaikan gejolak jiwa muda semata. Seiring laju usia, mungkin hanya keluarga saja yang akan tetap setia menerima diri kita utuh, apa adanya. Mungkin.

Mengagungkan persahabatan juga bisa mengecewakan di kemudian hari. Itulah yang aku rasakan saat ini. Aku mencoba menjadi sahabat terbaik bagi mereka, namun begitu mudah mereka melupakan semua ketika kebahagiaan lain datang menyapa. Apakah ungkapan ini artinya aku tidak tulus? Hmmm... tentu saja aku tulus, namun ketulusan bukan berarti tidak boleh memiliki kekecewaan, bukan?

Akhirnya aku melangkah ke depan. Dengan atau tanpa mereka, hidup ini akan terus bergulir. Dan seleksi alam kelak menunjukkan siapa yang akan selalu benar-benar ada untuk kita, yang bukan hanya ada di saat-saat terbaik dalam hidup kita, melainkan mereka yang tetap ada di saat-saat terburuk hidup kita.

Terima kasih atas semua pelajaran dan pengalaman ini. Semoga 'kan menjadikan aku manusia yang lebih bijak di waktu ke depan. Amin.


~ Jejak Bintang ~

describe: ME

"Kamu adalah orang paling menyenangkan yang pernah aku kenal..."

Isn't it sound so sweet...?

Bagaimana orang-orang di sekelilingku, menilaiku...? Tentunya ada begitu banyak sudut pandang. Terkadang, kita berpikir, semua itu tergantung dari bagaimana mereka menilai diri kita. Namun, setelah kurenungkan kembali, semua lebih kepada bagaimana kita menampilkan diri terhadap mereka.

Well, ternyata memang, kita cenderung bersikap "berbeda" pada orang-orang yang berbeda, di lingkungan yang berbeda. Misalnya, pada si A, kita cenderung hangat dan ramah, namun pada si B, kita bisa begitu cuek dan tidak peduli. Maka penilaian si A terhadap kita, tentunya sangat berbeda dengan penilaian si B terhadap kita, bukan begitu...?

"Kamu seperti labirin terrumit yang menyesatkan, dimana hampir membuat putus asa siapapun yang terlanjur tersesat di dalamnya, karena berpikir memang tidak diciptakan selapis celahpun sebagai jalan keluarnya..."

"Kamu orangnya paradoks, impulsif, terlalu spontan..."

"Kamu sangat plin-plan, begitu sulitnya ketika dihadapkan pada situasi dimana kamu mesti cepat atau segera mengambil keputusan...?"

"Kamu cerdas, terkadang isi kepalamu di luar keumuman, kata-katamu di luar prediksi atau sangkaan orang..."

"Kamu bagai buku terbuka yang begitu mudah terbaca olehku..."

"Kamu cukup egois, dan keras kepala dalam upaya mendapatkan apa yang kamu inginkan, gigih..."

"Kamu membingungkan dan sulit ditebak, kadang terlalu cepat berubah pendirian..."

"Kamu belum cukup matang dari segi pemikiran..."

"Kamu kadang begitu menyebalkan, ya..."

And so on, and so on... Terlalu banyak bila dijabarkan semua. Namun semuanya menjadi personal summary, bahan instrospeksi diri. Bagaimana kelak aku mematangkan karakterku. Tentunya mengerucutkan perspektif negatif dan memekarkan yang positif untuk menjadi lebih baik dari waktu ke waktu. Bagaimana orang menilai, ternyata hanyalah dari bagaimana cara kita memperlakukan mereka. Penilaian orang hanyalah cermin yang memantul lurus ke wajah kita.

Tak ada yang begitu penting untuk dirisaukan mengenai penilaian orang lain. Catatan tajamnya adalah bagaimana kita belajar untuk mulai memperbaiki perilaku, sikap dan tutur kata. Kitalah pemegang kendali terbesar dalam "membentuk" perspektif orang lain terhadap diri kita.

Kesimpulannya, bagaimana aku ingin dinilai...? Kembali pada kalimat pertama tulisan ini... :)


~ Jejak Bintang ~

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 6 - finish)

HISTORY behind the test :

The sexual revolution of the mid-20th Century triggered dramatic social change, and it also sparked interest among psychologists regarding the issues of sex roles and gender identity. Sex roles refer to the social functions that are typically performed by men and women. Roles such as "bread winner," "protector," and "father" were traditionally played by men, while "home maker," "care giver," and "mother" were traditionally played by women. The roles that men and women have in society affect the expectations we have about their respective behavior, and that often translates into our beliefs about masculinity and femininity.

In the early 1970's, psychologists developed measures of masculinity and femininity such as the Bem Sex Role Inventory and the Personal Attributes Questionnaire. Prior to this, it was thought that it was important for psychological health and well being for men to be masculine and women to be feminine. While these measures found that most men were masculine and most women were feminine, there was evidence that androgyny, the integration of both masculine and feminine qualities, could also be desirable and psychologically healthy. More recent research shows that sex-role transcendence, or not identifying strongly with masculine or feminine characteristics, may also be psychologically healthy.

Tickle's own research used the established measures of psychology as a starting point and we conducted our own studies to discover what masculinity and femininity mean today. It may be somewhat surprising to learn that society's beliefs about masculinity and femininity haven't changed all that much. What has changed is that in current times more people are scoring as androgynous and sex-role transcendent. This area continues to be an active research topic in psychology because gender identity can affect how we think, behave, and communicate.


FINISH

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 5)

GENDER SPECIFIC COMMUNICATION

All of us have multiple social identities that contribute to our sense of self or who we are. These identities are drawn from the various roles that we play in life such as friend, student, professional, spouse, parent, and so on. Gender identity is one of the most fundamental of our social identities because it stems from the basic biological distinction between males and females.

As noted earlier, sex typically refers simply to the physiological categories of male and female, whereas gender refers to the socially defined attributes of masculinity and femininity. Because gender categories derive in part from the distinction between the sexes there is typically a strong correspondence between one's sex and one's gender identity. In other words, most men tend to be masculine and most women tend to be feminine. The two other gender types that we've presented in this report, androgynous and sex role transcendent have developed mainly because of how society has changed in the past several decades. In addition, men and women have begun to assume roles that were traditionally played by the other sex.

Communication is a central aspect of almost all relationships whether they are with family, friends, or romantic partners. Conversation is also one of the most common areas in which masculine and feminine styles are distinctive and potentially conflicting. Less is known about conversational styles of those who are androgynous or sex role transcendent because the available research in this area looks primarily at sex differences rather than gender differences. Based on Tickle's own research on gender, we can give you some idea of how each gender type communicates.

Stereotypical Male and Female Communication Styles

In the fields of communication and linguistics, the majority of research on gender specific communication has focused on communication between men and women without considering the psychological aspect of gender identity. Although this research may not shed light on exactly how androgynous (the integration of both masculine and feminine qualities) and sex role transcendent types (not identifying strongly with masculine or feminine characteristics) converse, it can help us understand how men and women typically or stereotypically communicate. Since, as we've noted before, most men tend to be masculine and most women tend to be feminine, we can take from this a sense of how masculine and feminine types are likely to converse.

Prominent sociolinguist, Deborah Tannen, notes that generally for men, "conversations are negotiations in which people try to achieve and maintain the upper hand if they can, and protect themselves from others' attempts to put them down and push them around. Life, then, is a contest, a struggle to preserve independence and avoid failure."

In contrast, women tend to approach the world "as individuals in a network of connections...Conversations are negotiations for closeness in which people try to seek and give confirmation and support, and to reach consensus. They try to protect themselves from others' attempts to push them away. Life, then, is a community, a struggle to preserve intimacy and avoid isolation."

This does not mean that men don't care about establishing connections or that women don't care about achieving status; it means that these are not the central goals for men and women respectively. These very different approaches and goals can often lead to misunderstandings and conflict.


Communication Breakdown

When women express that they have trouble or difficulty with something, they are typically looking for understanding and sympathy in the form of a related experience. For example, when Laura told her friend Susan that she hadn't been sleeping well since her mother passed away and just couldn't seem to concentrate on anything, Susan said, "I know. When my father died I was a wreck. I would forget to eat. I couldn't sleep for more than a couple hours at a time, and when I did I had very vivid dreams about childhood memories of my father. It took a long time for that stuff to settle down and for me to feel somewhat normal again." Susan's response made Laura feel better.

When Laura told her boyfriend Jason about having trouble sleeping and concentrating, he said, "Why don't you try taking sleeping pills for a while?" Jason's response upset Laura. She didn't feel that he was being understanding or empathetic. Some women may find that they are often frustrated when men do not respond to their problems with examples that show they can relate to the situation. They may resent the masculine tendency to offer solutions to a problem rather than a similar experience.


Who Talks More? Who Listens More?

Picture a married couple in the kitchen at breakfast circa 1950. She's at the stove cooking eggs and he comes into the room, kisses her on the cheek and sits down at the table. She starts telling him all the little details of what she has to do that day. He says, "Uh huh." She brings their plates to the table and sets them down, asking, "What are you up to today?" He's reading the paper. He says, "Just the usual," and goes back to reading the paper. She's got her arms crossed over her chest and frowns at the back of his paper. The stereotype depicted in this scenario is that women or feminine types are constantly trying to get men or masculine types to open up and talk more.

Now, picture a casual cocktail party around 1970. A group of men and women are talking about politics. One man says there is no point in voting because all politicians are crooks. Another male at the party jumps in and says that some crooks are better than others. A third man argues that if you don't vote you've got no right to complain when the country starts going to "hell in a hand basket!" The women listen attentively, some nod, but not one speaks up. In this image it is the men or masculine types who are dominating the conversation and the women or feminine types who are curiously quiet.

So which picture is true? The answer is neither and both. These examples are based on stereotypes and as such are over-generalizations of real world behavior, so in this respect neither picture is completely true. From another perspective, both are true. Research shows that in private settings women or feminine types tend to do more of the talking. In public settings however, men or masculine types talk more often and for longer periods.

Daniel spent the day with his friend Eric and when he got home his wife, Audrey, asked, "What's new with Eric?" Daniel responded, "Nothing."

Later it came out that Eric and his girlfriend had just gotten engaged. Audrey was upset and hurt that Daniel hadn't told her.

Audrey: When did he propose?

Daniel: Last Saturday.

Audrey: Where did he do it?

Daniel: I don't know; some restaurant I guess.

Audrey: Did he give her a ring or are they picking one out together?

Daniel: I don't know.

Audrey: Have they set a date?

Daniel: I don't know.

Audrey: Didn't you talk about it?

For some men, "nothing" may be an automatic response at the start of a conversation. Also, men are often much less concerned with the small details than are women. From Audrey's perspective, Daniel was shutting her out. If Audrey had talked with Eric she would know the details about which she is asking, and she may find it hard to imagine that Daniel and Eric didn't discuss such details. Sharing the specifics of one's experience is an important aspect of the feminine communication style. It serves the goal of connection and intimacy. From the masculine perspective, these details simply aren't that important.


When the setting is public, the picture changes. Mark and Jessica have just met at a party, and they have the following conversation:

Jessica: So, what do you do?

Mark: I lead outdoor team-building groups.

Jessica: Wow, that must be a lot of fun.

Mark: It is. I love the physical part of it, but there's definitely a mental aspect as well. It's important to get the group to work together and for each person to feel that they're contributing to the group's success. When it all goes right each person feels that they've pushed their own physical abilities a little farther than they thought they could, and the group feels like more of a cooperative team where everyone has more trust and understanding for each other than they did when we started.

Jessica: Have you been doing this for a long time?

Mark: Well, I've done outdoor stuff all of my life. I didn't realize until after college that I could make a living doing something I loved so much.

Mark goes on to describe how he got into his field, and Jessica listens attentively.

Mark and Jessica are conversing with some common masculine and feminine styles. Men tend to give information; they typically believe that the best way to strike up a conversation is to come up with an interesting piece of information. Women, in contrast, tend to ask questions about the other person and to listen actively by nodding, smiling, and generally encouraging the person to whom they are listening.

Although we usually rely on the communication style that is consistent with our sex, it is possible to learn and use, occasionally, the other style. In private settings, men can try to offer more specifics to show a female partner that he feels connected to her. Women can try to accept that not sharing details may have nothing to do with how close or connected he feels to her. In public settings, men may be relieved to learn that they don't always need to bear the burden of making the conversation interesting and that it's okay to just listen. Women who find themselves too often in the role of listener can practice moving out of that position and putting forth ideas and opinions without waiting for someone to yield the floor.


Understanding What the Other Half Says

People with conversational styles that are highly masculine or highly feminine can benefit from learning each other's style. The masculine style teaches that conflict and difference need not necessarily be a threat to intimacy. The feminine style teaches that interdependence need not be a threat to freedom and independence.

Understanding the different ways that men and women use language makes it possible to change your own way of speaking, when you want to. But even without changing your style, simply understanding the different approaches can improve communication and relationships. When people realize that their conversation partner has a different communication style, they are better able to accept differences without blaming themselves, their partners, or their relationships. There is no one "right" way to talk, to listen, or to have a conversation.

When people don't see style differences for what they are, they may draw conclusions about personality ("you're irrational," "you're insensitive"), or about intentions ("you don't care about me," "you don't respect me"). When we understand that "you have a different way of showing you care" or "you're not trying to control me" there is room for adjustment or negotiation. You can ask for or make changes without assigning blame. Understanding the ways that people with different gender identities approach conversation can bridge the "gender gap," and genuinely open the lines of communication.

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 4)

What Traditional Feminine Qualities Do You Possess?

In this section, you'll learn how you scored on six major characteristics that comprise a traditional view of femininity. Each of your scores is plotted in the chart below, alongside the average scores for women and men.


The Dimensions of Traditional Feminine Qualities


Cheerful

As the label suggests, this quality of femininity is about presenting yourself to the world in a positive, energetic, upbeat manner. In addition to suggesting a generally happy demeanor, this aspect of femininity is about seeing the silver lining and maintaining an optimistic view even in the face of adversity.

No one is likely to describe you as perky. You can even be a bit cynical or pessimistic. You don't tend to be someone who simply paints a smile on your face even if you're feeling down. When you're happy, you're happy, and when you're not — you're not. Other people who are extremely perky, peppy and sunny may even annoy you.


Compassionate

A key element of femininity is caring and compassion. This quality is about relating to others and, more specifically, it's about the extent to which a person has a softhearted, tender, and sympathetic approach toward others. Showing kindness and affection are also parts of this traditional feminine quality.

You're probably not terribly sentimental or overly sympathetic. You may have an inner circle of family or friends to whom you show a more tenderhearted side of yourself, but you're probably not interested in easing all of the pain in the world. You're not especially emotional, and you may not find it easy to express affection. You're not likely to seek out roles and situations that demand empathy and care giving, and you may even actively avoid them.


Gentle

The gentle aspect of femininity is about a quality of warmth and softness. It involves having a pleasant, easy-going nature, and not approaching things in a harsh or rough manner even in times of conflict or stress.

You are moderately gentle. For the most part you have a warm, easy-going nature. When you get angry or frustrated, you don't let it get the best of you. You make an effort to try to work through conflict by talking it out, even if a part of you wants to yell or throw something. You can handle more stressful situations when necessary, but you probably appreciate physical and emotional environments that are quiet, calm and tranquil. You have the ability to create or seek out such peaceful environments when you need to.


Understanding

The understanding quality of femininity is somewhat similar to the masculine analytical quality, but in this case the object of analysis is people. Being understanding involves having empathy, and an ability to take in another person's perspective. It's about having insight into why people do what they do.

You generally understand people very well. You are uniquely skilled at seeing things from another's perspective, and can empathize with people's problems and struggles. You tend to have a strong sense of intuition and insight into people's motivations and goals. Among your friends you're likely to be the person that everyone goes to with their problems. You would probably make a good therapist. It's likely that you seek out roles and situations that call upon your ability to understand others.


Timid

The timid quality of femininity involves not wanting to speak up in some settings. Being timid includes feeling shy at times, and having a hard time voicing an opinion in some circumstances. There is a reluctance to express strong negative emotions.

You tend to be very timid. In a crowd you would prefer to simply blend in. You're not someone who seeks the spotlight; in fact you can be very self-conscious. In a social setting you're more likely to watch from the sidelines than to jump into discussions. You connect better with people on a one-on-one basis, but when you first meet someone you may feel somewhat awkward and unsure, especially if it's a dating situation. When you feel angry or sad you may have a tendency to hide those feelings around other people.


Trusting

The trusting quality of femininity involves believing things too readily. This includes a tendency to not only believe what other people tell you, but also to have a difficult time discerning when someone is lying. This characteristic involves a level of optimism and belief in others that approaches gullibility.

You are moderately trusting. When a friend tells you something you are most likely to believe it. However, when the source of some new information is unknown to you, you might believe it, but you may also approach it with a healthy dose of skepticism. You're not always good at telling when someone is lying. You might recall a time or two in the past when you discovered that you had been deceived. You want to see the best in people, and usually you have a fairly positive, optimistic outlook on life.



Next: Gender Specific Communication

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 3)

What Traditional Masculine Qualities Do You Possess?

In this section, you'll learn how you scored on six major characteristics that comprise a traditional view of masculinity. Each of your scores is plotted in the chart below, alongside the average scores for women and men.


Sports Fan

A key component of masculinity is about being physically active. More than that, highly masculine people are drawn to sports. While a feminine person might do aerobics, a masculine person plays individual or team sports. Within this aspect of masculinity are the qualities of both physical prowess and competitiveness. The attraction of watching, playing, and winning at sports is a uniquely masculine quality.

You scored relatively low in the area of liking sports compared to other people. When making choices about how you spend your time, there are many other activities you would choose before playing some kind of sport. Watching sports is probably also something that is not high on your list of favorite things. You're not highly competitive, at least not in terms of physical performance.


Decisive

Making decisions quickly and easily is a traditionally masculine quality. This dimension is associated with a certain boldness, responsibility and clarity of purpose. There's no wishy-washiness, dithering, or second-guessing. When a decision is needed, whether it's easy or difficult, stepping up and making it is the masculine approach.

You're able to make decisions fairly easily when they are called for. Even if you're not certain of the answer to a particular question or problem immediately, it probably doesn't take you too much time or energy to resolve the issue. You are relatively comfortable in roles and situations that demand good decision-making skills, but you may not seek them out intentionally.


Leader

Ever heard the phrase "alpha male?" A desire to be the top dog, the big cheese, or the head honcho is another important aspect of masculinity. This traditional quality of masculinity involves not only being in charge, but also a sense of determination, a desire to distinguish one's self, and to be successful.

You are not likely to be interested in being the boss. You may be perfectly capable of blazing a trail, but you'd usually rather let someone else do it. You don't necessarily equate having power with being successful, and for that matter, success may not be the key to happiness for you. You probably don't try to gain positions of leadership, and may even actively avoid them.


Aggressive

Although masculinity is a psychosocial construct, describing what a given society considers to be appropriate behavior for males, there is at least one aspect of it with clear ties to biology, and that is aggression. Biologically speaking males have higher levels of testosterone than females. High levels of testosterone are related to aggressive behavior. Does that mean that all men are aggressive and that women are not aggressive? No. It means that, in general, males are more likely to exhibit aggressive behavior than females and because of that the societal definition of masculinity has developed to include aggression. More specifically, a tendency to react to conflict with hostility and even violence is highly masculine.

You tend to be fairly low in aggressiveness. When provoked you are not likely to respond with any kind of violence. You'd much rather resolve an explosive situation by talking it out or simply by walking away. It probably takes a lot to make you really angry. You don't tend to initiate conflict, nor do you tend to escalate a conflict when one arises.


Analytical

The analytical aspect of masculinity is characterized by logic and reason. It involves a love of complex thinking and a desire to find the root cause of almost any problem. In contrast to the sports playing quality of masculinity, the analytical quality is all about the mental game.

You are moderately analytical. Complex thinking and problem solving are activities that you can certainly handle and may also enjoy, but you probably don't feel compelled to always be figuring out the how's and why's of every situation. You may find that you draw on your analytical abilities primarily in one area of your life, such as work, but less so in other areas, such as leisure. You are able to use logic and reason when needed.


Principled Individualist

The principled individualist component of masculinity is reminiscent of the American cowboy. This is a quality or set of qualities about being one of a kind, and not just another face in the crowd. It's also about living by a certain code of honor, and standing up for what you believe in.

On occasion you really stand out and show what makes you so unique, and at other times you choose to simply blend in with the crowd. There are certain principles that you simply wouldn't think of compromising, but you also realize that sometimes you can't sweat the small stuff and you have to be flexible. Your outlook typically leans more toward the positive than the negative, and overall your approach to life tends to be fairly practical and realistic.



Next: What Traditional Feminine Qualities Do You Possess?

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 2)

What Makes You Masculine or Feminine?


Tickle has conducted several studies combining the classic psychological approach to gender identity and our own independent research to measure your masculinity and femininity. Here are the traditional qualities of masculinity and femininity:

Masculine: Sports Fan, Decisive, Leadership, Aggression, Analytical, Principled Individualist

Feminine: Cheerful, Compassionate, Gentle, Understanding, Timid, Trusting



In addition to these major areas, there are several significant, but less central qualities that comprise the traditional definition of masculinity and femininity. These include things such as:

Masculine: Focus on action, moving forward and just doing it.
Feminine: Focus on calm, relaxed interpersonal interactions.

Masculine: When it comes to personal safety, attack, defend, and run only if necessary.
Feminine: When it comes to personal safety, run, defend, and attack only as a last resort.

Masculine: Ability to use maps and find the way.
Feminine: Ability to seek help when needed.

Masculine: Creative interests in the direction of building structures.
Feminine: Creative interests in the direction of artistic endeavors.

Masculine: A tendency to mind one's own business.
Feminine: A tendency to get involved in others problems.

Masculine: Smiling almost exclusively as an expression of emotion.
Feminine: Smiling as an integral part of day-to-day interaction, regardless of personal emotion.

Masculine: Highly circumscribed physicality among friends. Shaking hands is manly; hugs are not.
Feminine: High degree of latitude for physically expressing affection to friends. Hugs or kisses are okay, but a handshake is unusual.


Furthermore, Tickle's research shows that certain behavioral stereotypes still hold true when it comes to masculinity and femininity. In fact, when considering all of the other aspects that go into a person's gender identification, these stereotypes still stand out as indicators of femininity and masculinity. Highly feminine people are significantly more likely to say that they like the color pink and that they wear lipstick than are people who are masculine. Highly masculine people are much more likely than those who are feminine to say that sex on the first date is okay and that they lift weights. While society's expectations about the roles that men and women can play has certainly changed in the past several decades, our notions of what is truly masculine and what is truly feminine remains somewhat tied to very traditional beliefs. Masculinity is related to being strong, virile, and powerful, while femininity is related to being soft, attractive, and warm.



Next: What Traditional Masculine Qualities Do You Possess?

Tickle : I'm 27% Masculine (Part 1)

That means you're 73% feminine. When we compare your results with other women it shows that you are somewhat less masculine than average.

What does it mean for a woman to be masculine? Masculinity in Western culture involves participation in physical activity and strong analytical skills. But masculinity is more than just liking sports and analyzing problems.

The chart above shows your overall percentages of masculine versus feminine qualities. Whether you have a greater proportion of one or the other, or whether you have roughly equal masculine and feminine qualities, this balance of qualities says something about the type of gender identity that you possess.

In this report you'll learn more about your own gender identity, and what qualities were used to determine how masculine and feminine you are. You'll learn how you scored on each of the 12 dimensions that comprise your masculinity and femininity scores, and how your scores compare to men and women in general. Based on your particular gender identity, we'll help you understand how to more successfully communicate with others.

So what's the difference between sex and gender? In psychological terms, sex refers to our biological categories of male and female while gender refers to the socially constructed ideas and beliefs about how men and women "should" behave. Masculinity can be defined broadly as the behavior society expects from males, and how a "true man" should think, feel, and act. Likewise, femininity can be defined as the behavior society expects from females, and how a "true woman" should think, feel, and act. A person's gender identity is the extent to which he/she takes on or possesses the qualities and behaviors of each gender as defined by popular culture.

This is not to say that females don't possess typical male qualities and vice-versa. In fact, that's what this test is about! Overall, everyone has some of the qualities we will cover below; it's just the extent to which people possess them that varies. It's also important to keep in mind that much has changed in Western culture in the last three decades, and men and women are playing roles and developing behaviors that were not necessarily open to them in the past.

It is not uncommon for men to have higher masculine scores than feminine and for women to have higher feminine scores than masculine, but there are also many people whose masculine and feminine qualities are roughly equal to one another. When a person's masculine and feminine qualities are balanced they either have high levels or low levels of both. Each configuration has its own strengths and weaknesses.

Your test results indicate that you're Highly Feminine.


The four possible gender types:

Highly Masculine: People who are highly masculine tend to be very action and/or results oriented in the world, but may not be extremely emotionally expressive.

Men who are highly masculine often encounter a good deal of social approval, but may have a low degree of role differentiation. In other words, highly masculine men often find their sense of self strongly tied to what they do. The potential down side of this is that if a highly masculine man is having major difficulties related to work, there aren't many other roles in his life that can provide the same sense of satisfaction and boost to his self-esteem.

Women who are highly masculine may be very accomplished or successful in career domains but may encounter some social disapproval for not demonstrating enough traditional feminine qualities. Masculine typed women may also encounter the same difficulties as very masculine men of having their sense of self tied primarily to action-oriented areas of life such as work.

Highly Feminine: People who are highly feminine tend to be very relationship or people oriented, but may not be extremely results focused.

Women who are highly feminine typically encounter strong social approval, but in some settings highly feminine women may have difficulty commanding authority or being taken seriously. Highly feminine women tend to invest their sense of self in their various relationship roles (e.g., daughter, friend, wife, mother, co-worker). If one of these roles is causing significant stress or difficulty, feminine women can usually draw support from other established relationships and roles to maintain a positive sense of self.

Men who are highly feminine often have very strong interpersonal skills, but may encounter some social disapproval for not exhibiting enough traditionally masculine qualities. Feminine typed men also often benefit from having a variety of relationship roles in their lives just as very feminine women do, and can usually maintain a positive sense of self in the face of life difficulties or challenges.

Androgynous: People who are androgynous have both strong masculine and strong feminine qualities. Androgynous people tend to be both action and people oriented, and are usually able to successfully take on a diverse range of roles that cross gender-role boundaries.

Sex-role Transcendent: People who are sex-role transcendent have both low masculine and low feminine qualities indicating that gender is not a category that is critical to their sense of self. In other words, sex-role transcendent people develop and maintain their sense of self through roles that are not tied to gender stereotypes.


Next : What Makes You Masculine or Feminine?

The Tickle Test

Tickle.com (from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)

Tickle Inc. is a media company, providing self-discovery, and social networking services. Formerly known as Emode.com, Tickle was founded on the idea that personal insight and connections to others can be scientific, fun and profitable. The site also allows users to create their own test, that are available for other users to take.

Tickle survived the dot-com bubble burst of 2000, became profitable in early 2002, was acquired by Monster Worldwide in May 2004 and is now part of the overall Monster network. In April 2008, it was announced that Tickle.com will be shut down at the end of June 2008. The site announced in December 2008 that they will be permanently shutting down on December 31, 2008. The site, as announced, was shut down on December 31, 2008.

In January 2009, Monster launched a new quiz website entitled TestQ, which focuses on career-related content and 'PhD quizzes'.


History

Tickle was founded in 1999 as Emode.com by James Currier and Rick Marini. Tickle focused on quizzes and tests for both entertainment and self-discovery. It was an early example of viral marketing, with tests such as the "What Breed of Dog Are You?" receiving heavy traffic from word-of-mouth and pass-along emails. It had a reputation for using an aggressive and arguably deceptive pop-up campaign. Accordingly, critics charged that Tickle's reputation and practices tarnish the commercial goodwill associated with its clients/advertisers, who appear ordinarily protective of their brands.

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My Note : Sayangnya, saat ini Tickle.com-nya sudah tidak available lagi. Padahal menarik banget test-test kepribadian yang ada disana. Dan beruntungnya, aku masih menyimpan beberapa arsip dari test-test di Tickle.com yang pernah aku ikuti, dan memperoleh penjabaran yang super mendetail by email. Test-test ini kuikuti sekitar pertengahan tahun 2007 hingga mendekati akhir tahun 2008. Lumayan lah untuk "self-discovery", hehehehe... Check it out, yaa...


~ Jejak Bintang ~

sejuta makna

"...baiklaaah, kini tiba saatnya untuk flashback, dan akan kutelusuri satu demi satu tulisan dalam blog ini, at least setahun terakhir... dan aku pun menemukan apa yang kucari..."


Aku tersenyum, dan sesekali juga terpana menelusuri tulisan-tulisanku sendiri, ternyata memang tulisan-tulisanku memiliki berjuta makna, tentunya bagi diriku sendiri, dan mungkin orang-orang yang dapat menyelami makna tulisan-tulisanku disini...

Pernah ada yang memperhatikan dan berkata padaku, "sepertinya tulisan-tulisanmu banyak bicara soal waktu, kenapa...?"

Aku tak punya jawaban, karena aku menulis begitu saja, tak peduli waktu, kapan pun isi pikiran maupun isi hati memintaku untuk mengekspresikannya kedalam tulisan...

Kini aku mempunyai jawabnya, waktu demi waktu yang kulalui, telah menuliskan kisahku di sini, langkah demi langkah yang kutapaki... Aku belajar menyukai kesenangan, dan juga belajar menjalani kesedihan...

Semua tertuang dengan jelas di sini, seperti SEJARAH yang sedang pada prosesnya... Semoga kelak aku akan menjadi lebih bijaksana dalam mengambil pelajaran dari setiap goresan kata...

Karena HIDUP adalah selalu tentang BELAJAR, terima kasih wahai kata-kata yang telah banyak mengajarkan padaku, dan menorehkan sejuta makna disetiap goresan...


~ Jejak Bintang ~

REGULUS - bintangku

Regulus (α Leo / α Leonis / Alpha Leonis) adalah bintang paling terang di rasi Leo dan termasuk bintang yang cemerlang di langit malam. Bintang ini berada pada jarak 77.5 [[tahun cahaya ] dari Bumi. Regulus merupakan sistem multi bintang yang terdiri dari empat bintang yang tergabung dalam dua pasang bintang. Regulus A terdiri dari bintang biru keputihan dan pasangannya yang belum diobservasi, berkemungkinan adalah bintang katai putih (white dwarf).[1] Di depan Regulus A terdapat pasangannya yang terdiri dari Regulus B dan Regulus C, yang merupakan bintang redup.

Observasi

Regulus berada di garis ekliptik, dan mengalam okultasi reguler dengan Bulan. Okultasi dengan Merkurius dan Venus juga dapat terjadi tetapi jarang. Okultasi Regulus oleh planet Venus terjadi pada 7 Juli 1959. Okultasi berikutnya diprediksikan pada tanggal 1 Oktober 2044. Matahari mencapai titik terdekat dengan Regulus sekitar tanggal 23 Agustus setiap tahun.

Regulus memiliki massa 3.5 kali Matahari dan merupakan bintang dengan usia muda, yaitu sekitar beberapa ratus juga tahun. Bintang ini berputar sangat cepat, yaitu 15.9 jam, menyebabkan perubahan warna yang sangat cepat.

Visibilitas

Regulus A adalah bintang yang cemerlang di langit malam dengan magnitudo yang mengesankan. Regulus B merupakan bintang katai kelas K2 yang jauh lebih redup dibandingkan komponen A. Komponen terakhir, Regulus C, adalah bintang merah kecil dan yang paling redup diantara tiga komponen serta saat ini bintang ini dalam proses obeservasi

Etimologi

Rēgulus berasal dari bahasa Latin yang berarti pangeran atau raja kecil. Orang Yunani menyebutnya Basiliscus yang berarti sama.

Nama lainnya untuk bintang ini adalah :

Qalb Al Asad, Kabelaced / Cor Leōnis (Arab/Latin) : Jantung (Sang Singa); Rex / Malikiyy (Latin/Arab) : Raja; Huánghòu (China) : (bintang) yang berkuasa dan bersinar;



sumber : http://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Regulus

the astrology

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

Here is your Today's Leo Horoscope:

Let things happen today -- you need to make sure that you're not pushing too hard. It's a good day for you to try to practice letting go of things and people who need to be able to determine their own destinies.

Compatibility: Virgo
Mood: Relieved
Lucky Color: Red
Lucky Number: 7
Lucky Time of Day: 1am



I wonder how this astrology is soooooooooooooooo RIGHT for me TODAY... thanks anyway to give me a COURAGE, once again ;>

ALL ABOUT LEO

LEO 21 Juli - 21 Agustus

Simbol : Singa
Elemen : Api
Warna : Kuning, emas, orange
Bunga : Bunga matahari
Hari baik : Minggu

Karakter
keywords; super pede, kreatif, berani, suka jadi pusat perhatian, optimis, murah hati, agak sombong, keras kepala, kaku
Leo sangat suka blak-blakan. Kalau senang bilang senang, kalau sebal nggak segan-segan menunjukkan kesebalannya. Sebetulnya Leo orang yang sangat percaya diri, tapi kadang-kadang suka senewen juga sama pendapat orang. Masalahnya Leo perfeksionis dan nggak suka dianggap konyol. Leo juga kreatif dan senang bila berbeda dari orang-orang kebanyakan. Perhatiannya yang tinggi pada kebersihan dan hal-hal yang berbau kesehatan menjadikan penampilannya selalu rapi, bersih. Leo juga pemerhati mode, dan cenderung berani mencoba mode terbaru yang lagi ‘in’. Mungkin, hal ini merupakan wujud dari sifat dasar Leo yang suka jadi pusat perhatian. Sebagai pribadi, Leo hangat dan pandai membuat ramai suasana. Selain itu Leo mempunyai bakat menjadi seorang pemimpin dengan sifat idealis dan ambisiusnya.

Persahabatan
Leo pendengar yang baik, apalagi bila ada teman yang curhat. Leo bisa memberikan seluruh perhatian dan simpatinya pada teman yang sedang berduka. Sayangnya Leo nggak selalu berpikir objektif kalau emosinya terpengaruh. Banyak teman menghargainya karena Leo bisa melakukan pendekatan yang bagus pada setiap orang yang berbeda-beda. Dengan Aquarius, Sagitarius, Libradan Ariesbiasanya Leo bisa cocok bergaul karena bisa saling memberikan masukkan dan dukungan satu sama lain. Asalkan si Leo bisa mengendalikan sifat keras kepalanya dan mulai belajar untuk menghargai pendapat orang, hubungan persahabatannya pasti bakal abadi.

Asmara
Sebagai orang yang menyukai keindahan, Leo sering menunjukan perasaannya secara romantis. Bila suka bermusik, Leo akan menghadiahkan lagu indah buat dia yang disayang, bila pandai merangkai kata-kata indah Leo pun tak segan membuatkan puisi buat si doi. Leo juga setia dan rela berkorban demi cinta. Sekali jatuh cinta Leo akan mempertahankan cintanya. Sayangnya bila patah hati, Leo memerlukan waktu yang lama untuk sembuh lagi. Saling menghargai dan mau mendengarkan adalah kunci sukses hubungan asmara Leo dan doinya.

Yang bikin Leo nggak Happy;
1. Melakukan sesuatu dengan terpaksa
2. Nggak diperhatiin
3. Diremehkan
4. Ketemu orang yang nggak memperhatikan penampilan
5. Apapun yang keliahatan jorok dan tidak rapi
HooKin UP!!!..

Cewek Leo , klop sama cowok
- Scorpio yang suka sama cewek percaya diri
- Aquarius yang penuh kejutan manis
- Sagitarius yang nggak membosankan
- Leo yang bersemangat

Tips nge-gaet cewek Leo
Kalo mau nge-date-in cewek Leo, bawa dia pergi nonton ke bioskop, resto yang romantis, atau konser klasik. Doi suka kalo ada cowok yang merhatiin dia. Doi juga suka kalo di-jeles-in, hehehe... Kalo kamu bukan tipe yang suka jeles, doi kan bikin kamu sampai ngerasa jeles. Dia merasa kecemburuan adalah suatu pujian. Doi suka cowok yang kekar (cepet daftar di fitness center kalo bodi kamu masih tulang belulang!). Doi juga suka mencium bau parfum cowok yang maskulin. Doi juga suka dipuji terus.. Cewek Leo banyak disukai orang. Jadi kamu harus treat her right, kalo enggak, kerebut orang lain! Kalo kamu bisa take care of her financially and emotionally, wah... doi bakal lengket sama kamu terus deh! Doi kalo udah marah atau lagi bete, maunya diturutin dan jangan sekali-kali marah balik atau bentak dia karena dia ‘fragile’ banget hatinya alias lunak.

Cowok Leo , pas banget kalau sama cewek
- Aries
- Cancer
- Virgo
- Sagitarius

Tips nge-gaet cowok Leo
Kalo dapetin cowok Leo, wah enak deh karena doi itu romantis dan berani mengorbankan apa aja demi kamu. Dia gak ragu-ragu abisin duit buat ajak kamu makan di resto mahal biarpun doku lagi pas-pasan. Tapi cowok Leo ini tipe yang agresif kalo soal ngejar cewek. Mereka lebih suka yang langsung nunjukin karena pengen tau apakah kamu juga suka sama dia. Doi tuh tipe yang mandiri dan serba bisa tapi dia lebih suka memperlihatkan dirinya seperti seorang pemimpin. Tapi cowok Leo gampang marah dan bete kalo dia nggak mencapai hasil yang dia inginkan. Kamu harus mampu meredakan amarahnya. Doi suka cewek yang berpakaian seksi dan feminin. Doi lebih suka mengejar cewek daripada dikejar. Jadi relax aja girls! Biasanya cowok Leo bakal cerita tentang kehidupan-kehidupan cintanya di masa lalu. Jadi siapin deh kuping kalian untuk dengerin. Kalo males dengerin, bilang iya iya aja..

TiPs ngasih Kado Buat Si LeO
Suka atau enggak dengan kado yang diberikan, antusias Leo nggak akan pudar. Daya tarik sebuah kado sangat kuat buat mereka, dan itu bakal kelihatan jelas lewat matanya yang berbinar. Memang nggak biasa menilai kado dari bendanya, tapi jangan bohongi Leo dengan bungkus kado yang indah tanpa isi yang sebanding. Bisa ngamuk!!!..

Buat Cewek
Kue tart kecil dengan sebatang lilin untuk suasana romantis dan spesial atau tiket menonton konser musik bisa jadi surprise yang menyenangkan. Satu cone ice cream atau sekotak coklat bisa jadi pilihan berikutnya. Mau menarik perhatiannya? Bantu mereka menyiapkan pesta atau acara sesuai rencana yang dibuatnya.

Buat Cowok
Sebuah pin kecil atau dasi bercorak garis menjadi pilihan. Celana panjang dengan banyak kantung, tas model simple dengan panjang tali yang cukup untuk diselempangkan atau buku-buku berbahasa asing akan melengkapi penampilannya yang cool.